Get Your Own!

I was reading an article this morning about the increase in single women going after men who are taken. They've been dubbed "Husband Hunters" who find it thrilling to chase after and conquer men who are in relationships. This trend began in Hollywood and has seemingly leaked out into society. These days, girlfriends, wives and wedding rings mean nothing to women who are lusting after taken men.

In the article some brainless woman was quoted having said, "I think men are made to spread their seed. Women need to accept that. If you're going to be married to somebody, you need to know that men are not meant to be with one woman. I think you can totally love your spouse and still sleep with other women. That urge will always be there, if you're a man. I believe you can love your wife 100 percent and still stray.”

What the hell happened to the sacred vow of monogamy?!! Never ever, EVER will this be acceptable for me. Regardless of whether I'm dating or married, my man will always know that he can either chose to be with me, and only me, or he can find himself a women like the one quoted above.

This article worries me because of how impressionable young women are today, particularly when it comes to Hollywood trends. It's bad enough to see a trend like "Husband Hunters" becoming more prevalent, but it would be worse to see women simply accept that "men are made to spread their seed."

I think it is important to note the biological truth of the idea of men spreading their seed to multiple partners, but to also recognize how archaic the concept is. It has been proven that men were indeed wired to produce as many offspring as possible to ensure that their genes were perpetuated. However, we live in a very different society today than we did in 1.5 million years ago.

Before the married couples of the 1970’s came along and shot the concept of marriage to hell by quadrupling the number of divorced individuals in the US, marriage was a commitment punctuated by “‘til death do us part.’” Now, 43% of first marriages end within 15 years, 75% of those people re-marry, and 65% of those second marriages fail. Maybe Disney needs to do a few remakes of the “Happily Ever After” classics to better prepare the next generation for commitment. Or at least to provide a safety blanket to hide under while Mommy smashes Daddy’s car with a baseball bat when she finds out he’s been sleeping with his groupies.

Ladies, the groundwork to a monogamous marriage starts during the selection process. First off, if you’re a “Husband Hunter,” take a second to really think about the “65% of second marriages fail” statistic. Even if you do win the conquest of the married man, and he becomes your husband, chances are it won’t be for long. Do yourself, and the married women out there a favor and find your own man! Don’t go meddling through someone else’s hard work and dedication.

Second, All the Single Ladies! It’s our job to ensure that we not only find the right man for the job of husband, but that we take the time to understand the type of commitment we want from a marriage. If we repeat those vows, “for better or worse” and “’til death do us part,” mean it. If necessary, throw a couple of specific ones in: “Even if her stripper name is Bombshell…” “Even if she is a hot intern…” “Even if it is Madonna, I will keep my damn hands to myself!”